Dear Auntie Leila,
I am loving reading the posts on your blog. I am awed by all these lovely women who have lots of children. My question is whether you can share some wisdom about body image and marital intimacy.
I guess for me I feel like since having my (first) baby 2 and a bit years ago (it was a complicated birth and took a long time to heal from physically and I think perhaps longer mentally) I am constantly revisiting how I feel about my body.
I am gradually trying to let go of the weird perfectionism thing that makes me think I need to look like a supermodel, without the personal make up artist, thousands of dollars and the lack of eating!!
I wonder how you (or others) maintained (and maintain) your idea of being an attractive self whilst pregnant or breastfeeding, at different stages of life, and so on. How do you hold the two "selves" together? And how do your husbands? (I guess it's telling that I think of myself as two people - the mother and the pre-mother who had her own life and felt attractive?! Ideally I'm sure I should be one person!)
Thank you for all your down to earth wisdom!
Okay, it’s going to seem really random to you that I find this question very… Advent-y.
Stick with me because I’m going to be practical, but also show you how these issues we have can be resolved by our Advent devotions, and we will also get input from the Chief, Sukie, and Rosie.